Yeah, an option to outcome such negative feeling is to forgive. But unfortunately, our culture often perceives forgiveness as a sign of weakness. This makes it harder to actually do the work to forgive those who have done you harm.

Sometimes, untoward incidents of life continue to haunt throughout life. The emotions attached with the incident have raucous appeal on our soul and mind. It is often the case that we will re-experience these events over and over in our head. The more we think about it, the more bitter and angry we become because of the event, or individual who hurt you. These emotions have a stronger effect on our health which even we can’t think of.

 Every time we re-experience these negative episodes of our life, our body suffers just as much as our mind. Such negative emotions can lead to devastating long time disease.

Yeah, an option to outcome such negative feeling is to forgive. But unfortunately, our culture often perceives forgiveness as a sign of weakness. This makes it harder to actually do the work to forgive those who have done you harm.

Clinically speaking, forgiveness is when you get to a place where you can “release” a sense of hostility and an angry mindset towards the one who has hurt you (regardless of whether they actually deserve your forgiveness).

Keep in mind that forgiveness is a process not an event. That’s why there is such a huge difference between decisional forgiveness and emotional forgiveness.

Decisional forgiveness is a “behavioural intention to resist an unforgiving stance and to respond differently toward a transgressor,” whereas emotional forgiveness is “the replacement of negative unforgiving emotions with positive other-oriented emotions. Emotional forgiveness involves psychophysiological changes, and it has more direct health and well-being consequences.”

Studies have found that forgiving personality types are related to better subjective and psychological well-being. Other studies have found that forgiveness is linked to improved physical symptoms, fewer medication used, better sleep quality, less fatigue, and fewer somatic complaints.

If you remain resentful, confused, hostile, and unclear about something that’s happened in the past, your physical body will also start feeling the toll.

Dr. Steven Standiford, the Chief of Surgery at the Cancer Treatment Factilities of America, says that remembering these sad thoughts makes one nervous and causes inner turmoil. Naturally, this causes an abnormal surge in the cortisone and adrenalin levels in the body. In turn, this decreases the amount of cells that kill threats to the body.

So the cells that are protecting your body from disease and illness are hampered when the body is in a state of anger, hostility and un-forgiveness. This means that you are more prone to developing diseases like cancer.

Stewing over a problem causes the body to continuously release cortisol, and this isn’t good. Choosing not to forgive will simply make you more sick, and keep you from getting better.

Dr. Michael Barry, author of the book The Forgiveness Project, estimates that 61 percent of cancer patients have forgiveness issues. “Harbouring these negative emotions, this anger and hatred, creates a state of chronic anxiety,” he explains. “Chronic anxiety very predictably produces excess adrenaline and cortisol, which depletes the production of natural killer cells, which is your body’s foot soldier in the fight against cancer.”

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